Visiting Therapists
Our profession is
helping people right?Lets talk a bit about how we
harm them first!
Let me clarify a few things here before we get started.
First off, this is all my "opinion" and and based on that, I want to share some "advice" here.
There are two things you need to understand about opinions and advice.
1)
Opinions are like assholes, EVERYONE has one.
And
2)
Advice is worth exactly what you pay for it, and any advice I am giving you here is free.
Let that sink in before you continue.
As a therapist, just like with a doctor, psychologist, psychiatrist or any other professional, the reason people come to us seeking help is, they see us as a "Subject matter expert" and thus, they trust us. Face it, they would not be talking to us about their problem, were it not for the fact they believe us to be a subject matter expert and can therefore help them. No?
That places a VERY heavy burden of responsibility on us!
When we say something, they take it as gospel. So, when we tell them things like, "You need to go through your traumatic experience, until it loses it's power." They believe that going through it again and again is the way to fix the problems they came to us for.
Just like when A doctor tells a cancer patient "this pill will make you feel better", they believe it.
I give you the placebo effect as exhibit one, to clarify the effects of their belief in the doctor as the expert.
I deal with the most powerful mechanism of change in the human experience, the human mind.
My chosen way of doing that is through direct communication with that part of the mind which is responsible for all changes in our lives. Stopping a bad habit, getting rid of negative reactions, increasing their motivation, helping them find happiness, the list is as long as the totality of the human experience. The mind controls the body, therefore, this is where I go when someone asks for help.
Now then, I am going to concentrate here, on this page, on just one issue. You would call it "PTSD" or "Post Traumatic Stress Disorder," because it has to have a common label. But you can extrapolate this out to cover any issue being worked on, by any of the professionals listed above. The principal always applies!
I call it PTSI, or Post Traumatic Stress Injury.
Because the common label of "disorder" is damaging to the person seeking help for the issue.
Why would I say such an outrageous thing?
Lets start with the label. Post "Traumatic Stress 'DISORDER.'" What is a "Disorder?"
Mirriam Webster defines it like this:
disorder verb
dis·or·der | \ (ˌ)dis-ˈȯr-dər , (ˌ)diz-\
disordered; disordering; disorders
Definition of disorder (Entry 1 of 2)
transitive verb
1 : to disturb the order of
2 : to disturb the regular or normal functions of
disorder noun
Definition of disorder (Entry 2 of 2)
1 : lack of order
clothes in disorder
2 : breach of the peace or public order
troubled times marked by social disorders
3 : an abnormal physical or mental condition
a liver disorder
a personality disorder
Let us consider for a moment, Entry 2 number 3.
Number 3 :
an abnormal physical or mental condition a liver disorder a personality disorder."
As my doctor at the V.A. PTSD treatment center in Seattle Washington told me years ago:
"PTSD is just a natural reaction, to unnatural circumstances."
In which case, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD is in fact NOT a "disorder!"
However, when the person suffering from this malady hears the subject matter expert refer to it as such, it has some effects.
First, it labels them as abnormal. Then, it strips away hope. It then makes them feel that something is wrong with THEM!
If the issue is a natural reaction, then how can it be abnormal? We just hung a millstone around their neck!
The answer is, it cannot be and is not abnormal. If it is abnormal, then why has it been around under different names for the entire time mankind has walked the earth? "Soldiers heart," "Shell shock," "Combat fatigue" are some of the names that have been used through history to describe the exact same issue. Now we have given it the really slick acronym of "PTSD."
When we tell the client they have a "disorder," we automatically lock them into a no win situation. We have told them, they are NOT normal! And to humans, that's devastating!
But, if we tell them they have an "injury?" Well, injuries heal right? Maybe not perfectly, but they do heal. there is hope. They recognize they have some rehab coming, but there IS hope for them.
Look at those numbers again
Those numbers are old. But an average of 22 veterans a day kill themselves in the United States.
Those numbers represent 25 times more veterans killing themselves than those that died on active duty, of all causes.
Why is this happening?
They have the V.A. hospitals right?
The V.A. hospital is there specifically to help the veteran, so why the massive disparity in those numbers?
Let us now have a look at the treatment model of the V.A. and where it originated.
Relive it over and over till it loses its power?
ARE YOU KIDDING ME?
If the experience harmed them, how exactly will reliving it, again and again, help them? Did that experience not harm them already?
Of course it did! That's why they have come to a subject matter expert, seeking help to fix the harm!
And we have we hung a millstone around their neck before we even got started! We hung a negative label on them as soon as they walked through the door!
Wait a minute! I thought we were here to help them.
How exactly are we helping them when the first thing we did was hang a negative label on them? Marked them as abnormal. Stigmatized them for all the world to see when they have to confess they have PTSD?
And NOW, we are going to ask them to relive the trauma that caused the problem, over and over, until it miraculously "heals the hurt?"
Look, the experience harmed them the first time! Asking them to go through it over and over again is not going to help them, it is going to harm them, again and again! And that is pretty much guaranteed.
In my experience, this first affirms and then expands the problem.
And each time, it creates another problem they are going to have to face, sooner or later.
If your child came to you crying, because they touched a hot stove and burned their hand, would your solution be to make them touch that hot stove, again and again, until it was no longer painful? NO! Absolutely not! That would be barbaric!
Sure, eventually, in self defense, the body would create calluses to defend itself against such an assault, but, those calluses are going to have their own negative effects. The lack of sensory acuity those calluses represent is just the most obvious.
However, when they are sufficiently developed, the appearance is, the individual has gotten better, because they can now touch the hot stove without yelping in pain and blistering. But, was the issue taken care of? Really?
Where did this insanity come from?
This theory traces back to Sigmund Freud. "The father of psychiatry" right?
Are you aware that half way through his life, he destroyed everything he had written and started over?
Are you also aware that when he died, he had no cartilage in his nose, due to massive cocaine abuse?
That is correct, look it up.
So, today's psychiatrists and psychologists are practicing "helping" people by using the theories of a drug addict!
So, we are taking advice from a drug addict? Really?
Look at those numbers again and ask why the massive disparity.
What exactly is "trauma" in this case?
Simply put, in this context, "Trauma" is an event or experience that negatively emotionally impacts a person.
In the case of PTSI, this can be a combat experience like seeing a friend shot and killed or blown up.
The effects depend on a lot of factors, not only situational at the point of the event, but individually, as far as past experiences have impacted them and changed them. Every experience changes us to one degree or another. But, also how they are treated when they come home and yet again, when they finally seek help and are handed a label that causes shame and self recrimination.
So, the bottom line here is emotional. Which is the sole responsibility of the subconscious mind. These experiences by now, have changed the basic programs running in the subconscious mind. They dictate the emotional reactions that we experience every day.
This is where every negative thing in a person with PTSI originate and are perpetuated from.
Including but not limited to, the "Exaggerated startle response."
But, let me ask you a question here also, and it concerns labels.
Is that startle response exaggerated? Or, is it quite normal?
To the doctors who wrote the book of labels, it is quite exaggerated! Of course.
But, send those doctors into a combat zone, with bullets whizzing by, explosions all over, bombs going off, artillery and mortar fire coming in, and friends getting shot and blown to pieces all around them, then ask them, is that response really exaggerated?
I do not think so! In fact, I consider that response quite normal, for someone who has been through such events.
It is exaggerated when they are back at home? Absolutely.
However, that persons responses were ingrained in circumstances one hopes you cannot imagine. It was sane and normal during that time and in that place and circumstances. And as a matter of survival, that is how they learned to react.
Can we inject a little compassion here please?
So, what do I suggest to help this person?
I am a hypnotist. I consider any problem in the human condition to be like a vine, invading a garden.
How would a master gardener deal with this vine, that left unchecked, would destroy the garden?
Would that gardener go out weekly and pull some leaves off the vine? Only to have to do that every week forever when the new leaves develop? If they are truly a "Master gardener" they would not! What they would do is trace that vine to the root, and cut the root! Knowing that the vine is now dead and all of the leaves will soon dry up and blow away.
In the case of PTSI, we know pretty much where the root is! it is the Initial Sensitizing Event. (ISE) It is the original trauma no?
The longer that vine is allowed to grow, the more leaves it will develop to prevent the garden from getting sunshine and therefore growing and being healthy, putting out the best possible crop, right? And then, there is the problem of the nutrients that vine takes from the soil, which also, negatively effects the garden, because those nutrients are no longer available to the crop. Right?
The approach we take with PTSI is very much like a gardener who only goes out and pulls leaves off the vine once a week.
As with ALL doctors, psychologists and psychiatrists, who are trained to treat symptoms, this gardener is doing exactly that.
I posted the following video several places on this site, because it speaks so loudly and with such authority to me.
I present it again here, and even if you already watched it, I would implore you to watch it again, because it is that important.
But how do you "cut the root" with something like PTSI?
To me, a hypnotist, this seems so obvious!
First, I take them outside of themselves and regress them to the trauma. I put them in the position of a disinterested, unaffected third party observer and we lightly examine the issue, identifying the most traumatic elements.
Then I set about washing away the emotionally traumatic elements.
I take out the emotional impact without them ever being asked to live it all over again.
And THAT is how you take the power out a traumatic event! Reliving it, only adds to the trauma!
Now, going back to what I said about the value of advice being tied to the price we pay for it?
I have given you some free advice here.
When you apply the spotlight of actual logic to it, what is it worth?
And in light of the irrefutable arguments I have made here, what has your advice been worth so far?
I am not trying to put anybody down here, but I AM trying to inject some sanity into this issue.
We have the best of intentions, just like doctors do
And the road to hell is paved with good intentions.
Look, what happens when a doctor, who is the subject matter expert, tells the cancer patient they only have 3 months to live?
First, their subconscious accepts this as true, because it is coming from the subject matter expert.
Then, the subconscious goes about preparing for the inevitable death that is coming in 3 months.
So, when that patient dies in 3 months, was the doctor really that accurate, or did the subconscious just accept it and cause it, because that is how it is supposed to be, according to the subject matter expert?
Evidence is mounting to support the second postulation.
I am a hypnotist. I have done things doctors have said were impossible. I have done those things with words.
Words have power and when I use the right ones, peoples lives change for the better.
Isn't it time, doctors, psychiatrists, psychologists and therapists learn to be careful of the words they speak?
After all, each of those listed, is considered a subject matter expert, and the wrong words can kill.
I am happy to train people in my methods, which are working
If you are seeking to learn my methodology, I am happy to work with you to guide you into an understanding of how to avoid these pitfalls within our respective professions. Contact me and we will talk.
If you deal with military related PTSI or MST on a regular basis, particularly if you work with veterans, I will do that free of charge. I am a veteran with PTSI, and I wish to God that someone would have taught this stuff before I came out of combat!
This is a game changer!
Expect miracles, accept success