Relationships
Are you tired of fighting over small things?
In relationships, there is the possibility it can become toxic. And it is not because one party or the other has decided to be nasty or sink the relationship. Each person has their needs. If those needs are not met, problems naturally arise.
So, what do you do when a good relationship turns that corner?
And what can be done when you are tired of bad relationship after bad relationship? Finding yourself feeling trapped over and over? I also address this below.
In life we have many types of relationships
Everyone we deal with in any way is another relationship. But we are not talking about your relationship with the person running the cash register at the grocery store here, we are talking about your significant other.
For help getting the new relationship you want, that is covered below.
At Mind Mechanic this is a serious issue. How you relate to each other in a relationship is vitally important to the longevity of the relationship. Pretty simple. There are many different ways a hypnotist can help you with this issue. I will simply tell you about a couple issues I have worked with to get you going. Then I will address finding the perfect relationship if you are seeking one.
The first situation I want to tell you about was a gentleman I was working on other issues with, who came to me and told me he did not want to leave his wife. They had problems sure, but there was a child involved and he wanted to keep the family together for the child. He went on to tell me that they had both cheated, both knew about it and he was at his wits end.
However, though he still cared a great deal for his wife, he stated plainly that he no longer felt love for her. He also stated that there was a drop dead gorgeous woman, whom he had cheated with in the past, almost stalking him. He had been with her and was almost powerless to stop seeing her. She would appear at his place of work and he would fall right back into it, knowing he would regret doing so.
This was a multi tier problem. I wanted to get to know his situation a little more, and since he was local to me and we had a session coming up for other issues, I invited his family to come enjoy our pool for an afternoon. After observing them for an hour or so, he and I went to the office for his session.
This is one party to the relationship seeking help without the other being involved.
I will call this scenario #1
In the next instance, was a couple who came to me for help. Pretty close to scenario #1. Though in this case, they had no children. Certainly, they had their issues, so they came to me together for help to put it back together, because it had been so good.
This is a couple coming to me together for help.
I will call this scenario #2
At Mind Mechanic this is a serious issue. How you relate to each other in a relationship is vitally important to the longevity of the relationship. Pretty simple. There are many different ways a hypnotist can help you with this issue. I will simply tell you about a couple issues I have worked with to get you going. Then I will address finding the perfect relationship if you are seeking one.
The first situation I want to tell you about was a gentleman I was working on other issues with, who came to me and told me he did not want to leave his wife. They had problems sure, but there was a child involved and he wanted to keep the family together for the child. He went on to tell me that they had both cheated, both knew about it and he was at his wits end.
However, though he still cared a great deal for his wife, he stated plainly that he no longer felt love for her. He also stated that there was a drop dead gorgeous woman, whom he had cheated with in the past, almost stalking him. He had been with her and was almost powerless to stop seeing her. She would appear at his place of work and he would fall right back into it, knowing he would regret doing so.
This was a multi tier problem. I wanted to get to know his situation a little more, and since he was local to me and we had a session coming up for other issues, I invited his family to come enjoy our pool for an afternoon. After observing them for an hour or so, he and I went to the office for his session.
This is one party to the relationship seeking help without the other being involved.
I will call this scenario #1
In the next instance, was a couple who came to me for help. Pretty close to scenario #1. Though in this case, they had no children. Certainly, they had their issues, so they came to me together for help to put it back together, because it had been so good.
This is a couple coming to me together for help.
I will call this scenario #2
In the next instance, a woman came to me for sleep issues and confidence issues in business and interpersonal relationship issues. Sleep is straight forward. The confidence issues were a bit involved, so I questioned her about it. She was in a long term relationship but her partner was resistant to moving in together. She was at a loss because he would not even discuss it.
I will call this scenario #3
The way I deal with every situation is unique to the person's case. In scenario #1 above, I worked with the client to reaffirm his feelings, amplify them, reinforced his commitment and opened his eyes to the reality of this other woman and what she was doing to him. Not only him, but his wife and family.
We saw them in town the next day and there were remarkable, easy to see, changes in the relationship dynamics. They were speaking kindly to one another and any passer by could see they were clearly happy together. He came to me amazed to thank me. He could not explain how SHE had changed! (I did not work with her) He was very grateful for the work I did.
In this case, the wife did change. A LOT! But, it was not because of anything I did. It was because he changed how he looked at and dealt with her. Those changes caused a shift in the relationship and all of a sudden, they were happy again. I saw them a few months later. They were headed to the beach as a family. He was pushing a stroller with one hand, and in his other hand, he was holding hers. I went on to work again with his other issues and as they say, “They lived happily ever after.”
Interestingly, a few days after I saw them on the street, he reported that the other woman had come to his office again. He said he found it very easy to send her packing. It pleased me quite a bit that he reported he did it nicely and gently. There was no reason to hurt this other woman more than just telling her it was over and he had chosen to stay with his wife.
In scenario #2 things were different. In this scenario, I was able to first work with each separately, then both together. But the effects were better than even I expected. I suspect they have since heard those infamous words we throw around from time to time. “Get a room!”
The way I deal with every situation is unique to the person's case. In scenario #1 above, I worked with the client to reaffirm his feelings, amplify them, reinforced his commitment and opened his eyes to the reality of this other woman and what she was doing to him. Not only him, but his wife and family.
We saw them in town the next day and there were remarkable, easy to see, changes in the relationship dynamics. They were speaking kindly to one another and any passer by could see they were clearly happy together. He came to me amazed to thank me. He could not explain how SHE had changed! (I did not work with her) He was very grateful for the work I did.
In this case, the wife did change. A LOT! But, it was not because of anything I did. It was because he changed how he looked at and dealt with her. Those changes caused a shift in the relationship and all of a sudden, they were happy again. I saw them a few months later. They were headed to the beach as a family. He was pushing a stroller with one hand, and in his other hand, he was holding hers. I went on to work again with his other issues and as they say, “They lived happily ever after.”
Interestingly, a few days after I saw them on the street, he reported that the other woman had come to his office again. He said he found it very easy to send her packing. It pleased me quite a bit that he reported he did it nicely and gently. There was no reason to hurt this other woman more than just telling her it was over and he had chosen to stay with his wife.
In scenario #2 things were different. In this scenario, I was able to first work with each separately, then both together. But the effects were better than even I expected. I suspect they have since heard those infamous words we throw around from time to time. “Get a room!”
In scenario #3 I worked with the client on sleep, then, I set about boosting her self esteem, self love, self protection mandates and confidence in all aspects of life.
At the end of our third session, I was asking her how things were going. She told me business was good. Then, she started telling me how her relationship was doing fine, her significant other was now talking to her and things were working pretty well. Then she stopped, got a funny look on her face and said "WOW! I think this is working!"
I explained to her that the energy she puts out had changed and the changes in her partner were a direct result of that. You see, people react to us based on our energy, expectations and what we put into the relationship.
You see, whatever the issue in a relationship, there is a way to repair that relationship instead of throwing it away. The reason for this is, there was a relationship in the first place. That gives me a foundation to build on. I produce a repaired and solid foundation, that will be there a long time, supporting the structure constructed on top of it.
You see, whatever the issue in a relationship, there is a way to repair that relationship instead of throwing it away. The reason for this is, there was a relationship in the first place. That gives me a foundation to build on. I produce a repaired and solid foundation, that will be there a long time, supporting the structure constructed on top of it.
Human nature is to look at the other person in the situation. It is my experience that it is far more effective to look at ourselves and pay attention to what we can fix there. When you do that, you change your energy and outlook, then, your reactions change. These things change the way others respond to us. Thus, the dramatic change in scenario #1, when I never even spoke to the wife about the problems. The only thing I did there was to change his feelings and perceptions, and thus his reactions and the basic way he dealt with her. Those changes flipped her attitude and responses and now they are happy together again.
Never lose hope. The only way we fail in life, is if we quit.
Never lose hope. The only way we fail in life, is if we quit.
Expect miracles, accept success
About attracting a partner
The thing about attraction is this, the balanced, confident person attracts balanced, confident people. It is a natural thing.
When you take someone who is shy, and not outgoing and make them feel love for themselves and confidence, they suddenly attract a whole new type of person.
Gone then are the days of attracting the "wrong kind" of people. In fact, those types will be naturally repelled by the changes. And the "right kind" of people are now attracted to them.
This changes everything in a persons life. Everything! It creates a person who knows what they want and does not "settle" for less.
Why "settle" when there are 7 billion people on the planet, basically half male, half female. That means there are literally hundreds of millions of options out there to choose from.
So, where do we go from here?
When someone wants to change their dating life, there are a series of key changes that need to be made.
First, the negativity must be cleared out of a persons life. This acts like an anchor, holding you in place.
Second is confidence. Do they have the confidence to approach someone they find attractive and start a conversation?
You see, if you can not approach someone and start a simple conversation, you are going nowhere. Nothing good is ever going to come to you. Once you break that out of your life, you can approach an attractive person and simply talk. That's all it is, a conversation. But this is where relationships are born. There is nothing to it really. But so many people are afraid to do this. A man can approach a woman, or a woman approach a man. When you have confidence to do this, your options expand greatly!
When a woman approaches a man, it sets the dynamic of the interaction. And of course, the inverse is true. Many times people get into a place where they are not thinking about a relationship, but, if you strike up a conversation, you have a chance to test that. you have a chance to get them interested in you. And that's how it works. You have to put yourself out there.
Lots of women go to the club and you see them dancing and making themselves obvious, in hopes a guy will approach them. And it works. But, they are not choosing which guys approach them. They are dealing with the randomness of chance. Were they to have more confidence and target the guys they are interested in, their luck will change.
And men who sit there watching, wishing they could approach that beautiful woman sitting alone or with friends, are not doing anything for their situation. She does not know you exist unless you insert yourself into her world. And it is very easy to do, if you just get up and start a conversation with her. Sure, it does not guarantee something will come of it, but you will never know unless you try.
Then there is self esteem to consider. Self love is contagious. And the killer is any neediness. You see, neediness is ugly to those who are balanced and healthy. And furthermore, it attracts people you want nothing to do with. They see neediness and gravitate towards you. But, these are the types that will use and abuse you. And when you show them you are needy,
you give them permission (in their minds) to do just that.
This is a recipe for being trapped in a bad relationship. Because that type of person will use that neediness to lock you in. To make you feel you cannot walk out, you cannot leave them, because, as they are too happy to point out, in so many ways, you NEED them and cannot get through your life without them. This is how you wind up stuck in a bad relationship.
Yes, there are other issues that must be addressed for a complete change in your dating life, but these are the foundation that you build on to find that which you are looking for in relationships. ALL relationships, but in dating relationships specifically.
As a life coach, I see this all the time. And I also correct these issues for the client.
I have repaired and launched many relationships over the years.
Expect miracles, accept success