When you set out to fix yourself inside, you are also setting out to change your entire life. Including all
of your relationships!
The reason is, if you are having a problem that won't go away, or keeps happening over and over, most likely the reason is something deep inside of you. Something in your past that your subconscious is protecting you from from experiencing again!
Your subconscious mind is the most powerful instrument of change known to man. It is where all changes are made. No exceptions!
Unfortunately, in an adult, the subconscious mind only has the maturity of a six year old.
Would you trust a six year old to make decisions that effect your entire life, without adult supervision?
Of course not! Therefore you must supervise and direct your subconscious mind yourself!
And the fastest and most effective way to do that, is through the use of hypnosis. And to do that right, you either have to be a proficient hypnotist, or you need one to guide your journey. A competent hypnotist understands the subconscious, knows how to work with it and negotiate with it, yes, sometimes we must negotiate with our subconscious mind to get the results we want. But most importantly the hypnotist knows how to communicate with the subconscious mind.
You see, you cannot always just sit down and talk it out.
My success rate is reliant on my being able to get the proper message to the subconscious. To know what to say, when to say it, how to say it and to understand the messages the subconscious is sending out.
What I am about to tell you, I have had some pretty "animated" exchanges with other hypnotists about over the years.
The subconscious does not have an organic language capability!
About a year ago I had a hypnotist argue this with me. They told me I was wrong as proven by the fact that they "talk to the subconscious mind all the time!" Now, this person is a member of a couple of the professional hypnosis organizations I am also a member of. First they touted their wall full of certifications and years of experience. I laughed at them and pointed out that the vast majority of certifications, a bird can get. Pay the fees, show up, sleep through the class and collect your certificate on the way out the door. Those certificates mean nothing to me. It is up to the hypnotist to see to it that they have learned the material.
They did not like that very much, but could not argue the point. So, I challenged them! I said, "You talk to the subconscious all the time, that's great! So, the next client you have that you must engage the subconscious directly, first, set up idiomotor signals, then isolate the subconscious completely and have your conversation! Let me know how that works out for you."
(Ideomotor signals are simple yes, no or I don't know messages delivered by raising a certain finger to give the answer)
That professional hypnotist never got back to me.
In fact, they have never spoken to me again and pointedly avoid me any time we are at a convention, gathering or training seminar.
I have to wonder how many times they have had to do the work repeatedly to get the results the client wanted.
You see, The subconscious does not have an organic language capability! In order to engage in a verbal discourse, the subconscious has to reach out to another part of the mind to get the verbal exchange interpreted. And that part of the mind has to reach out to yet another part to respond! Anyone who has worked with an interpreter will tell you that things do not always come out of the interpreter exactly as they went in. That is nobody's fault, it is just the reality of interpretations. Some words and concepts do not lend well to interpretation. And this will cause problems. As a minimum, it will slow the work to a crawl.
And a mistake in interpretation can destroy the entire project or negotiation.
Now, I will readily admit, in hypnosis, a conflict in interpretation is not something that is going to do a lot of harm, like, say, nuclear negotiations collapsing. A mistake like this in hypnosis generally just means nothing is going to happen or the process must be started over and done again to get the desired results.
That is not acceptable to me. When someone comes to me for help, they are trusting me to do the job right the first time and not waste their time and effort. I know how to speak the language of the subconscious. That's why I am considered a "master" hypnotist.
There are the basics. That's the human aspect of relationships. Because men and women are so different in certain ways, I refer you now to the appropriate section for these issues. Remember, the tools and solution are inside of you already!
Expect miracles, accept success