Everyone we deal with in any way is another relationship. But we are not talking about your relationship with the person running the cash register at the grocery store here, we are talking about your significant other.
For help getting the new relationship you want, that is covered below.
At Mind Mechanic this is a serious issue. How you relate to each other in a relationship is vitally important to the longevity of the relationship. Pretty simple. There are many different ways a hypnotist can help you with this issue. I will simply tell you about a couple issues I have worked with to get you going. Then I will address finding the perfect relationship if you are seeking one.
The first situation I want to tell you about was a gentleman I was working on other issues with, who came to me and told me he did not want to leave his wife. They had problems sure, but there was a child involved and he wanted to keep the family together for the child. He went on to tell me that they had both cheated, both knew about it and he was at his wits end.
However, though he still cared a great deal for his wife, he stated plainly that he no longer felt love for her. He also stated that there was a drop dead gorgeous woman, whom he had cheated with in the past, almost stalking him. He had been with her and was almost powerless to stop seeing her. She would appear at his place of work and he would fall right back into it, knowing he would regret doing so.
This was a multi tier problem. I wanted to get to know his situation a little more, and since he was local to me and we had a session coming up for other issues, I invited his family to come enjoy our pool for an afternoon. After observing them for an hour or so, he and I went to the office for his session.
This is one party to the relationship seeking help without the other being involved.
I will call this scenario #1
In the next instance, was a couple who came to me for help. Pretty close to scenario #1. Though in this case, they had no children. Certainly, they had their issues, so they came to me together for help to put it back together, because it had been so good.
This is a couple coming to me together for help.
I will call this scenario #2
In the next instance, a woman came to me for sleep issues and confidence issues in business and interpersonal relationship issues. Sleep is straight forward. The confidence issues were a bit involved, so I questioned her about it. She was in a long term relationship but her partner was resistant to moving in together. She was at a loss because he would not even discuss it.
I will call this scenario #3
The way I deal with every situation is unique to the person's case. In scenario #1 above, I worked with the client to reaffirm his feelings, amplify them, reinforced his commitment and opened his eyes to the reality of this other woman and what she was doing to him. Not only him, but his wife and family.
We saw them in town the next day and there were remarkable, easy to see, changes in the relationship dynamics. They were speaking kindly to one another and any passer by could see they were clearly happy together. He came to me amazed to thank me. He could not explain how SHE had changed! (I did not work with her) He was very grateful for the work I did.
In this case, the wife did change. A LOT! But, it was not because of anything I did. It was because he changed how he looked at and dealt with her. Those changes caused a shift in the relationship and all of a sudden, they were happy again. I saw them a few months later. They were headed to the beach as a family. He was pushing a stroller with one hand, and in his other hand, he was holding hers. I went on to work again with his other issues and as they say, “They lived happily ever after.”
Interestingly, a few days after I saw them on the street, he reported that the other woman had come to his office again. He said he found it very easy to send her packing. It pleased me quite a bit that he reported he did it nicely and gently. There was no reason to hurt this other woman more than just telling her it was over and he had chosen to stay with his wife.
In scenario #2 things were different. In this scenario, I was able to first work with each separately, then both together. But the effects were better than even I expected. I suspect they have since heard those infamous words we throw around from time to time. “Get a room!”
In scenario #3 I worked with the client on sleep, then, I set about boosting her self esteem, self love, self protection mandates and confidence in all aspects of life.
At the end of our third session, I was asking her how things were going. She told me business was good. Then, she started telling me how her relationship was doing fine, her significant other was now talking to her and things were working pretty well. Then she stopped, got a funny look on her face and said "WOW! I think this is working!"
I explained to her that the energy she puts out had changed and the changes in her partner were a direct result of that. You see, people react to us based on our energy, expectations and what we put into the relationship.
You see, whatever the issue in a relationship, there is a way to repair that relationship instead of throwing it away. The reason for this is, there was a relationship in the first place. That gives me a foundation to build on. I produce a repaired and solid foundation, that will be there a long time, supporting the structure constructed on top of it.
Human nature is to look at the other person in the situation. It is my experience that it is far more effective to look at ourselves and pay attention to what we can fix there. When you do that, you change your energy and outlook, then, your reactions change. These things change the way others respond to us. Thus, the dramatic change in scenario #1, when I never even spoke to the wife about the problems. The only thing I did there was to change his feelings and perceptions, and thus his reactions and the basic way he dealt with her. Those changes flipped her attitude and responses and now they are happy together again.
Never lose hope. The only way we fail in life, is if we quit.
Expect miracles, accept success